Monday, March 8, 2010
time goes by and things get better
I have met someone, his name is Steven. so far I like him and I think that we can make something out of this tiny spark we have. One thing that makes me fear getting into some kind of relationship again is the fear of it falling apart. I get so worried that if I give my heart out again I will end up getting dropped like a hot tamale again. One thing is for sure though. We are happy. He is more then I want and need but I don't let that get to me. I just want to make sure that when we make things official that it goes good. i am not sure what to do being a single mom. Now that I am a mom everything is a new experience. What should I do?
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Nicole, You seem very young to me and I would never try to tell you what to do. I can only go with what I know from my life experience. I can say that you can't go through life worrying about things falling apart. I was married for 25 years and that fell apart. The only thing I can say is, don't rush anything. It sounds like you just met this person and you are already making plans for the future. Stop! Enjoy life and your child. Date and take your time with a relationship. You are choosing for two now, not just yourself.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with Micelle on this one. Take your time and enjoy yourself, one day at a time. And PLEASE don't make the same mistake I did in my past...I jumped into the first guy's arms that showed any serious interest, I beleived all his claims of being able to take care of me. I wanted to hear all this, because my biggest desire at that point was to get out of my parent's house. I was exactly the same age as you when this happened. And guess what? Getting with this guy, getting married after knowing him for all of 3 weeks, is to this day, the biggest mistake of my life! Just be careful about what you jump into. No jumping right now, girl! Just skip along and have fun. Take your time.
ReplyDeleteI'm happy for you that you found someone that you enjoy spending time with, that's definitely nice have! :)
Nicole:
ReplyDeleteI agree with Michelle and Amanda,take your time and see what happens, if you rush into a situation just because it seems right you may be hurting yourself and your child as well. Remember that you now have someone else to care for and worry about, and you don't want to bring just anyone into your childs life.
Enjoy dating see what this person is all about, because you don't know if he is ready to help raise a child or even ready to be a father to your child. Take your time you are still young and a beautiful young woman there is no need to jump into a relationship because you may get into something that could be harmful to you and you baby.
I agree! women today have all had there bad men! I think if I could go back in time I would change a couple men. I was pregnant at 14 and the father left me high and dry, then I didnt want to raise my daughter myself cause it was very hard. So the first guy that came along took me and my daughter to the church and we were married! wow what a wonderful day that was he was late!! We only knew each other for maybe 5 weeks and he had moved in! He was very good at first, bought me flowers and anything I wanted we even enjoyied just holding each other. Then when we moved out of my mothers house and into our own place he forgot that we now had 2 girls to care for and he stopped helpping with everything including diapers! He bought comic books and shoes while I had to go to my mothers house to feed our daughters! Then the finial straw was when he hit me! Well in the long run I had to raise then 2 children and i was pregnant again alone! Come to find out I had found the perfect man! yeah right he was just like the rest out for himself! Now Im in a relationship and I hate it! Men just dont have a clue and you need to wait a while before you make that move again so just take your time and enjoy your child! Have fun, get spoiled for a change!
ReplyDeleteHow are things going between you and your dad? I hope the situation has healed.
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